Living From the Super-consciousness
“Acceptance Really Is the Answer to My Problems Today”
There is a quote from somewhere that says, “Acceptance is the answer to all my problems today.” I agree. For a long time I refused acceptance that many parts of my life experience had actually happened and I spent hours and hours of years trying to make them not have happened.
That was how I maintained both unforgiveness and misery.
If I break a glass, I can’t unbreak it. I might be able to repair it, but I cannot have broken it in the first place. This is where my choices come in. I can spend the rest of my life in misery that my glass got broken and it shouldn’t have. But it did. But it shouldn’t have…but it did…argh! Or I can accept that my glass got broken, I wish it hadn’t but it did. I’ll let that glass go. I’ll get a new glass. It was just a glass. I have lots more glasses. I’ll move on.
I spent a long time trying to not have been an abused child. Finally, one day, my healing was more important than any resentment I carried towards my parents. I looked for ways to change my thinking about myself, my parents and the abuse. Through lots of twelve-step work I discovered my parents didn’t have any more tools when they were in their thirties than I did in my thirties. I began to stop looking at them and what they did and look at myself and what could become possible for a great life. Finally, I could accept that all of that stuff happened and because of how good my life had become as a result of all that, I no longer needed it to not have happened. I let my mother off the hook while she was still alive and even though my father had already passed, I did my forgiveness work to set us both free from my story.
I’ve had many occasions for acceptance and to notice my resistance. It goes round and round, but I keep looking for freedom in all that happens. The cycles of unforgiveness are much shorter and the path of acceptance and joy are extending. I encourage us all to keep accepting the freedom that is available through acceptance.
Love, Love, Love
Please don’t ever decide that “This is the only way to think about it.”
All the Best for Today,